Cassie Meade

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We are an engaged LGBTQ+ couple currently DIYing our first home on the Chesapeake Bay! We believe in authentic storytelling and love sharing our daily life as a couple and topics like sustainability tips and home and garden projects.

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When Cassie told me their pronouns had changed….. 👇🏼 A few months ago Cassie told me that her pronouns were now she/they, and we’ve been celebrating it ever since. I wasn’t expecting the news but once she told me it totally made sense. I’ve loved getting to witness their journey and become more educated on pronouns myself 🤗 I have always believed that each day we wake up a different person than we were the day before. Always growing and evolving into what we are becoming. I view our relationship in the same way. Each day I make a conscious effort to meet the Cassie that exists right now in this moment and marvel at all they are becoming. Perhaps this is why change is so exciting to me. I knew Cassie was experiencing profound changes and seemed more like herself than ever, so when her pronouns evolved it made perfect sense. And if they keep changing I’ll be just as excited about that too! I love you, my magic person, and I’m so proud of who you are and all that you are becoming ❤️ How do you give yourself permission to change? 📸 @flytographer #partner #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #oneofthem #nonbinary #enby #outgirls #comingout #lovewins #loveislove #loveisloveislove #girlswhokissgirls #theknot #theknotrealweddings #engayged #equallywed #twowives #twobrides #mrsandmrs #lesbiancouple #brideandbride #engagementphotos #couplegoals #dirtybootsandmessyhair #heyheyhellomay #authenticlovemag #belovedstories

Ditch any relationship that doesn’t serve your highest purpose 🙌🏼 I (Alexa) have always been extremely picky with my friends and romantic partners. I have always felt like there is so much I want to become in this lifetime that I don’t want to waste a single moment with people who don’t feed my soul in positive ways. This has looked like: - communicating clearly when my needs aren’t being met - knowing the wisdom there is in walking away from people and situations that no longer serve me - tending to and nourishing the relationships I do chose, and always letting them know how much I appreciate them - waking up each morning ready to meet the person I am becoming, rather than thinking I am the same person I’ve always been. I truly believe being selective with who you surround yourself with is a profound act of self love. Be picky. Advocate for your highest self. You are so so worthy of it all ❤️ Do you find it difficult to leave relationships that no longer serve your purpose? 👇🏼 #globalgaygirlgang #instagay #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #pride #loveislove #loveisloveislove #lovewins #outgirls #outandproud #comingout #lesbiansofig #lesbiancouple #engayged #sheswithher #equallywed #mrsandmrs #hersandhers #wifeandwife #theknot #twowives #twobrides #lovemakesafamily #lgbttravel #lesbiantravel #dirtybootsandmessyhair #couplegoals #engagementphotos #loveandwildhearts

I’m not as independent as I used to be 👇🏼 And honestly it’s been a great thing! As a closeted, straight A, overachiever for the first 25 years of my life I was known for accomplishing great things by myself. I had no doubt that I could do things for myself and it instilled a great sense of confidence and helped me not fall into relationships purely out of convenience. BUT I was also lonely, and realized that I really thrive being part of a team. I now know with absolute certainty I can do most things for myself, but have the joy of choosing not to most of the time. Cassie is my absolute twin flame that just makes doing nearly everything a million times more fun. 🥰 Anyone else experiencing this transition? 🤷🏻‍♀️ #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lovewins #loveislove #loveisloveislove #instagay #lesbiancouplegoals #lesbiansofig #lesbiansofinstgram #lesbianpride #outgirls #outandproud #comingout #girlswhomarrygirls #engayged #mrsandmrs #hersandhers #wifeandwife #equallywed #twobridesarebetterthanone #twobrides #twowives #engagementphotos #couplegoals #dirtybootsandmessyhair #loveandwildhearts #belovedstories

Living it up in Palm Springs for our bachelorette weekend 🌴 Today we had a hot but lovely bike ride around Palm Springs, and an afternoon pool party! Now off to dinner and a drag show! If you’ve been to Palm Springs before, what’s something we can’t miss? 👇🏼 #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #loveislove #loveisloveislove #lovewins #lesbiansofinstgram #lesbianpride #lesbiansofig #palmspringslife #bacheloretteparty #engayged #equallywed #twowives #twobrides #twobridesarebetterthanone #brideandbride #wifeandwife #instagay #mstomrs #theknot #couplegoals #sheswithher #oneofthem #lesbiancouple #girlswhokissgirls #girlswhomarrygirls

I never imagined myself getting married 🤷🏻‍♀️ Marriage never really crossed my mind as a viable reality for me. Not because I didn’t want a partner, or the commitment, but simply because I couldn’t imagine it. I couldn’t even dream up a scenario in which I would be so in love with someone I would be certain about marrying them. Then in 2018 everything changed 😳 I started to wonder what it would look like if my future had a woman in it instead of a man. Suddenly it felt a million times more real. It excited me, but I still couldn’t imagine marriage. Then 6 months later I met Cassie and was totally swept off my feet. Within 9 months of dating I knew I wanted to marry her, and that knowing has never wavered 🥰 Fast forward three years and I get to marry the crap out of my dream woman in just one month! ❤️ Can anyone else relate to this feeling? 👇🏼 📸 @masonphotography #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lovewins #instagay #loveislove #loveisloveislove #engayged #mrsandmrs #twowives #twobrides #equallywed #lesbianfamily #lesbiancouple #lesbiansofinstgram #couplephotography #engagementphotos #theknot #dirtybootsandmessyhair #loveandwildhearts #belovedstories #authenticlovemag #couplegoals #heyheyhellomay #goldencouple #dancingwithher #oneofthem #comingout

My favorite thing about being a lesbian 🏳️‍🌈 Is not being expected to follow traditions! Before meeting Cassie I had only seriously dated men, and was the queen of first dates that never lead to anything. I knew the gender roles that were expected of me. When the check comes reach for my wallet only to be told, “I got this.” Hang back when approaching a door, because women don’t open doors for men. I never really questioned these norms and blindly went along with them because often times they benefitted me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ When I realized I was attracted to women, I threw this gender rule book out the window. It was so liberating, and I’ve found it has lead to a lot more conversation and equality. For example, once Cassie and I realized we wanted to get married we talked about who would propose. I had always envisioned myself being proposed to, not because I necessarily wanted that, but because I always thought my future would be with a man. Once we started having this conversation I realized my type A self would honestly rather plan it 😂 Anyone else have a similar experience? 👇🏼 #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #loveislove #loveisloveislove #lovewins #lesbiansofig #lesbiancouple #lesbianpride #lgbttravel #engayged #mrsandmrs #hersandhers #wifeandwife #lesbianfamily #equallywed #lovehasnogender #outgirls #outandproud #oneofthem #twobrides #twowives #engagementphotos #theknot #theknotrealweddings #dirtybootsandmessyhair #instagay #loveandwildhearts

Why is finding clothes so hard !? I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with shopping. The more I explore my gender identity the more I realize why I don’t like shopping- because I’ve never felt like I “fit” within either option available to me…either women’s section or the men’s section. I feel too masculine for women’s clothing and too feminine for men’s. I’m finally feeling comfortable enough to start experimenting and building a closet that truly reflects me and that means we’re getting creative! Last weekend Alexa and I went shopping and I ended up finding a number of pieces that I really feel like they authentically reflect the me that I am. It’s been hard to change my thinking from “what will people think of me if I wear that” to “how do I feel wearing this” and honoring myself in the process. With all of that said, Here are some shops that I’m currently loving (not sponsored, just where I had luck finding clothes I like)👇🏻 @nordstrom @madewell (men’s and women’s) @champssports @bearbottomclothing @target (their men’s sections is amazing) Drop me your your shop recommendations in the comments!! #oneofthem #lgbt #lgbtq #enbyfashion #lesbianfashion #lesbianlife #nonbinarylesbian #shethey #tomboygirl #tomboyfemme #nonbinary #enby #pride #lovewins #lovewins #queergirls #outandproud #lesbian #lesbiansofig #engayged #twobrides #twowives #lesbiangirl #girlswhokissgirls #girlswholikegirls #comingoutstory #lifestyleblogger #lgbtinfluencer #loveisloveislove #instagay

I bet you can’t guess where we’re headed next ✈️ Next week we are taking our first trip since Covid and heading somewhere super special for our Bachelorette weekend! We decided to do one combined bachelorette party rather than separate ones because Cassie and I are typical lesbians that didn’t want to vacation apart from one another 😂 Take a guess at where we are headed 👇🏼 Clue 1: the average daily temperature this time of year is above 100 degrees F 🥵 Clue 2: it’s rich in lesbian history 🏳️‍🌈 Clue 3: it’s known for incredibly colorful architecture 🏡 Any guesses?!? 🤷🏻‍♀️ #globalgaygirlgang #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lovewins #loveislove #wlw #loveisloveislove #lesbiansofinstgram #lesbiansofig #girlswhokissgirls #girlswhomarrygirls #lovehasnogender #outgirls #oneofthem #engayged #mrsandmrs #wifeandwife #twowives #twobrides #dancingwithher #couplegoals #lovemakesafamily #dirtybootsandmessyhair #theknot #instagay #equallywed #lgbtblogger #theknotrealweddings #loveandwildhearts

Real talk: this year has kicked our butts 🤷🏻‍♀️ We have had an insanely busy last year and it is really starting to catch up with us. It’s hard to believe a year ago we hadn’t even moved into our house yet, let alone began the many renovations and improvements we’ve completed. On top of that we’ve been saving for and planning our wedding, hosting and visiting family and friends, adjusting to new work demands (I, Alexa, got a promotion last month and have been working like crazy acclimating to my new position), and working towards fun future goals we will tell y’all about over the next year. Doing this all while under the stress and anxiety of a global pandemic has honestly stressed us the heck out. Cassie and I both LOVE following our curiosity and dreams but if this year has taught us anything it’s that even if you are busy accomplishing great things, being overly busy just isn’t sustainable. So today we are giving ourselves permission to slow down and tackle things at a more manageable pace. Let’s see if we can stick to it 😂 How do you keep stress at bay? 📸 @masonphotography #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #loveislove #lovewins #loveisloveislove #outgirls #outandproud #comingout #lesbiansofig #instagay #girlswhokissgirls #girlswhomarrygirls #lovehasnogender #lovemakesafamily #twomoms #twowives #twobrides #engayged #equallywed #mrsandmrs #theknot #theknotrealweddings #couplegoals #engagementphotos #dirtybootsandmessyhair #heyheyhellomay #belovedstories #loveandwildhearts

I think I would have known I was gay WAY sooner 😳 I didn’t have a shred of awareness about my sexuality until my mid twenties. I think this had a lot to do with my desire to not be rude or inconvenient in dating situations and actually admit that I wasn’t having a fulfilled time dating guys. BUT I also think the lack of visibility played perhaps an even bigger role. As a 90s baby in the rural Midwest, let’s be honest, visibility sucked. Ellen was the absolute only lesbian I was even aware existed until high school. I thought being gay was such an incredible rarity and being a lesbian was something that surely I would have known from birth I was. I didn’t see out LGBTQ+ individuals in my everyday life and when I did they certainly weren’t being celebrated by my community. It honestly was a really unappealing reality that I might be gay. I was otherwise so agreeable with what my community wanted me to be (femme, good grades, responsible, etc.) that I felt like admitting that I didn’t enjoy dating men might just make me an outcast. My desire to fit in kept me from exploring my authentic self. Thank goodness the 2010s ushered in more LGBTQ+ visibility and greater acceptance (granted there is still a long way to go). Being gay suddenly didn’t seem like a world ending thing to be. Once I finally allowed myself to explore my sexuality things fell into place so quickly. And the crazy thing is, all of my fears never materialized. While I don’t live in Indiana anymore, my family and friends from the community LOVE me. I am not merely tolerated, but completely celebrated ❤️ Anyone else have a similar journey? 🏳️‍🌈 📸 @abidoodleproductions #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #loveislove #outgirls #outandproud #lovewins #girlswhokissgirls #lovehasnogender #itsokaytobegay #sheswithher #lesbiansofinstgram #lesbianlife #lovemakesafamily #lesbianfamily #engayged #mrsandmrs #hersandhers #equallywed #theknot #theknotrealweddings #engagementphotos #couplegoals #dirtybootsandmessyhair #belovedstories #loveandwildhearts #heyheyhellomay #authenticlovemag

We woke up one day and decided to buy a house 🏠 We hadn’t been planning on buying a house last year. We just kind of were looking at what was on the market and different locations and next thing you know we had a realtor and we were touring houses! We had no clue what we really wanted in a home (our realtors dream client I’m sure 😂) all we knew was we wanted to be on or within walking distance to the water. We made that dream a reality✨ I remember when we told our parents we were looking at houses— they thought we were crazy. It was the middle of the pandemic and where we were looking wasn’t considered the most LGBTQ friendly. But we followed our guts and found our home on the water! We made our crazy dream a reality without even knowing what the dream was when we started the process ✨ Do you tend to trust your gut when it comes to crazy ideas/dreams? #twobrides #twowives #engayged #lesbiancouple #tomboystyle #tomboygirl #femmelesbian #lesbianlife #homevibes #lifestyleblogger #lifestyleinfluencer #lgbtinfluencer #gayisokay #pride #lgbtq #lgbt #nonbinary #lesbianfamily #lesbianhome #loveislove #lesbiansofig #itsokaytobegay #girlswhokissgirls #authenticlovemag #globalgaygirlgang #brideandbride

It’s MillerTime! [ad] We’re partnering with @MillerLite to share our favorite DC hidden gem! So here it is 👇🏻 Our go-to spot for a sunset picnic is a secret little spot tucked away at the top of the Lincoln Memorial. If you climb the steps all the way to the top of the memorial and walk around the perimeter of the memorial to the back of the building you’ll find our favorite sunset picnic spot overlooking the Potomac River and Arlington, Va. one of our favorite things is to come watch summer sunsets and enjoy a @millerlite and snack and just enjoy the beauty. Where’s your favorite spot in your city!? PS- can you spot the Washington Monument?

When what was supposed to be a quarantine hobby turns into a full blown obsession 😂🤷🏻‍♀️🌱 It’s been 11 months since I started growing our own food and I can’t believe how much I have learned!! I began with an experimental fall crop last year and since then my whole operation has expanded along with my passion for it! 💪🏼 Right now we are wrapping up our summer harvest of cucumbers, green beans, bell peppers, jalapeños, tomatoes, eggplants, and onions, and I’ve already begun some of my fall seedlings! I can’t wait to implement all that I’ve learned and some of my new garden toys into this season! 🙌🏼 My latest garden addition is the @vegepod which is an enclosed raised bed that enables me to grow crops without interference from pests! It’s already produced a great first harvest and I plan on using it in fall for broccoli and leeks 😋 What’s a new crop you challenge me to grow? 👇🏼 #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #loveislove #lgbtinfluencer #theinvisiblefemme #femmevisibility #lovewins #lifestyleblogger #gardengoals #sustainableliving #gardeninspiration #gardensofinstagram #gardeningtips #gardeninginspiration #growyourownfood #growyourown #veggiegarden #sustainablelifestyle #sustainabilityblogger #ecotips #gardentips #greenthumb #growyourfood #growyourownveggies #vegetablegarden #vegetablegardening #twowives #twobrides

The best part about both being brides?!? 👇🏼 ….is having two bridal showers 😋 this past weekend we had the most wonderful time in Indiana for our bridal shower with my (Alexa) friends and family! Huge shoutout to @natasha_holland for the incredible vision and amazing decor! Did anyone else decide to have 2 bridal showers? 👇🏼 #globalgaygirlgang #pride #lgbt #lgbtq #gaywedding #lgbtqwedding #bridalshower #bridalshowerdecor #loveislove #outgirls #outandproud #gaygirlcrew #femmevisibility #theinvisiblefemme #lovehasnogender #itsokaytobegay #lovewins #twobrides #twowives #lesbiansofig #lesbianfamily #lesbianlife #engayged #equallywed #lesbianwedding #dirtybootsandmessyhair #belovedstories #heyheyhellomay #engagementphotos #loveandwildhearts

It’s taken me 29 years to start feeling comfortable in my own skin… and that’s okay. I still have a ways to go, but each day I feel more and more confident in myself and this beautiful body that I have. Some days I find myself just being so proud of where this body has been and how it got me here and other days I feel like my body doesn’t match me at all. But everyday I show up for myself with love and patience as I continue to learn more about myself. I found myself at the beginning of summer facing a new feeling. I began experiencing a lot of body dysmorphia. I found myself getting frustrated with my body for not outwardly matching how I feel on the inside (TL;DR I’m still processing what it means for me to be non binary ish and how I can live my life more authentically by honoring myself). The old me would have sat on these feelings and let them take over. The new me though, their a person of action. I started working out again, something I’ve been avoiding for years. I reset my diet. And I bought myself some clothes that make me feel unstoppable. While those things don’t completely solve the feelings I’ve been experiencing, they’ve helped immensely and I continue to learn and grow everyday and find the vocabulary to express the experience of being me. And right now, I am feeling myself ✨ Alright, you saw this one coming…which is your fav— 1, 2, or 3? Drop your pick below 👇🏻 #nonbinary #enby #tomboygirl #tomboyfemme #lgbtq #lgbt #pride #lesbianlife #globalgaygirlgang #queergirl #outandproud #lesbian #oneofthem #engayged #twobrides #twowives #lesbiangirl #girlswhokissgirls #girlswholikegirls #comingoutstory #lifestyleblogger #lgbtinfluencer #loveislove #loveisloveislove #lesbianvisibility #gayasf #gayisokay #nonbinarylesbian #rainbowpride

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