Rosdaly Ramirez

I remember being a first time mom and being so anxious about how I was gonna birth. Would I have my baby vaginally or C- section? It the more I talked to others that seemed to be the focus, which felt like there was a “right” way to birth your baby. Though I had a vaginal birth, I gave birth and I felt so overlooked. I was left empty handed, I didn’t have a say on decisions being made during my birth, and I felt powerless. It wasn’t until I was pregnant again and sharing my first birth story that I realized that it didn’t matter how I gave birth, but what did matter is how I felt about my birth. Because heres the truth, there is no right way to birth. You can have a vaginal birth and it feel traumatic and you can have a C- section and feel empowered and heard. Birth is a natural act, it shouldn’t be traumatic. It should be empowering and those surrounding OUR birth should be part of making it feel that way. As I prepared for my second and third baby my focus on birth shifted. I leaned into doula support in order to feel empowered during my births. To believe that I had control over the process of my birth from beginning to end even if it didn’t end the way I wanted to birth. I had my second baby and I remember telling my husband, this is my do over, it was in that birth that I found my voice even when the doctors weren’t listening. And that same voice allowed me to push back on a lot of medical advice I was given during my third pregnancy after I couldn’t have a home birth. This last pregnancy and birth wasn’t anything I planned for. It was full of fear, and unknown, yet i remember hearing my doula ask me what I wanted to do the moment she realized we weren’t gonna make it to the hospital and empowering me into the most beautiful and shocking births I will ever experience. No matter how you choose to give birth, or how you end up birthing, my hope is that you would feel empowered, heard, seen, loved and taken cared of. That’s what matters most! That is what matters most. Tag & share with a mom to be 🤍 Did you feel empowered during your birth? #birth #pregnancydiary #maternalhealth #birthwithoutfear

Family bedtime just got sweeter in our home. Who would have thought someone else’s voice would make the kids’ wind-down so much smoother. Ha! The new Tuck-Ins audio feature from @hatchforsleep allows loved ones to be part of your kiddos night routine even when they’re far away. I love that I can also record my own messages, stories or songs when dad and I are away from them. Okay, now tell me how long it takes you to tuck your kids in? Me: 4 hours @hatchforsleep @hatchforbabysleep #choosesleep #hatchforsleep #hatchforbabysleep #tuckins #ad

“The last ONE”, that theme seemed fit as we celebrated our third baby’s first birthday. We’ve always wanted a big family, and we’ve always said we wanted five. It sounded crazy before we became parents and even more after we actually experienced it for the first time. In the last six years we’ve been parents, we’ve realized that this journey wasn’t what we thought it would be. In some beautiful ways it surpassed what we imagined it to be, and other painful ways it’s left us grieving what we hoped it would have looked like this far along. If you asked us tomorrow if we’re really done we would say “ yes”, but in the same breath we would say “ if I had this_________ , we would do it again”. While at the same time acknowledging that we’ve spent more years being parents than actually being just us two, and even then we would say that our kids didn’t rob us of what could have been of us if we had more years alone together. We would say that though they drew us apart, only to transform our love for the better. We can’t imagine better years of us without them. We’re thankful for this era of surprising pregnancy test, tears of joy and sadness of complicated pregnancies. Tons of sonogram pictures to stare at on the fridge. Births that grew our hearts and left us breathless. Experiencing all the first of baby, while trying to navigate the rebirth of ourselves. There’s so much we’ll miss, but so much we look forward to these next few years. @artbydario thank you for making this era the most beautiful journey I could have ever experienced, from pregnancy to birth you have loved and served me so well. For devoting all of you to them and me even at the dispense of your own dreams. What a gift to parent these last six years with you. We are so blessed by you. 🤍 #thelastone #parenting #lastbaby #motherhood #fatherhood Are you saying goodbye to this pregnancy, birth, baby era ?

When we had our first we set a tradition that no matter what day his birthday landed, we would spend that day with him. No birthday party chaos to ruin the day, no work, no school for him, or stress of plans. we spent that first birthday walking on the high line eating ice cream as we reflected on our first year of parents. Year after year we’ve pulled him out of school and spent the day doing something with him. Then our second son came and we did the same, and now we’re here with our third. We want them to know the day they were born was a sacred day in our lives and till they decide how they want to spend it or who they want to spend it with, we will spend our day enjoying all of them. I hope they grow up believing that seeing another day of life is a blessing, and that day they should do whatever makes them happy. #tradition #birthday #parenting #motherhood

Yesterday I spent the day reflecting on our births. Last year was such a blur that day. My shortest birth under 2 and half hours, from an accidental home birth to the chaos of an unpleasant hospital stay to bringing our last baby home to meet his brothers. So much can change in a year. I’ve watched our son change and grow so much, being able to experience your baby’s first year of life is a gift I don’t take for granted. Though it was his first year of life, it was my rebirth. I’m not the same person I was a year ago in every aspect. What a blessing to be able to be transformed and grow up along your baby. I had so many first this year as mom also. I’m overwhelmed by God’s goodness and the gifts he’s given us this first year with Noel. If you’re celebrating your first year as a mom along side your baby, remember to hold space for yourself also. “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us” Ephesians 3:20 #birth #oneyear #baby #motherhood #reflection

A lot of TMI here and you’re probably “ ayyyyOooooo” like my toddler, but if you don’t have a bidet for your butt; are you even period ready ? 😅💩🩸 🤣 @hellotushy is what you need! My tush is happy & so will the other boys in this household. 😂 I promise it’s clean what’s and I love that they have so many other toilet essentials. Anyone else own a bidet? Tell the people you need one! Thanks @hellotushy for cleaning butts one squirt at a time 😏 #postpartum #tushy

There was season in our life that attending any church at all or even a Easter service hurt like hell after the closing of our old church. Ten years of calling a place home and death can rock you in ways that shake your faith, sometimes growing pains and disappointment can blur your sight enough away from Jesus. But how good and gracious God is to remain where you left him. To chase after you no matter how far you’ve gone. The resurrection of Jesus allows us to go from death to life. That even when life rocks us, we have a hope; a rock to stand on. —- Thanks for thinking that broken people like us were worth dying for and even more worthy of being in your glory one day. There is no grief, loss or pain that Jesus can’t relate too, He knows. Happy resurrection Sunday; Love, This hot mess of a family, saved by grace. Ha! #jesusisalive #easter #savedbygrace #realparenting